Jennifer Lopez recently sparked controversy during an interview on The Howard Stern Show when she stated that she has never been “truly loved” by any of her past partners.
The 56-year-old shared that, while she has loved fully, her former spouses and partners simply weren’t capable of giving back the same depth of love she offered.
What she said next made everyone gasp.
“What I learned is it’s not that I’m not lovable — it’s that they’re not capable,” Lopez said.
“They gave me what they had… all of it. But…”
The comments didn’t sit well with her first husband, Ojani Noa, who responded with a sharp social-media post.
Noa, who was married to Lopez from 1997 to 1998, accused her of misrepresenting their history and claimed that he was faithful during their time together. He wrote:
“Stop putting us down… The problem is not us. The problem is you. You’re the one who couldn’t keep it in your pants.”
According to Noa, he moved to support Lopez early in her career, gave his loyalty, and remained honest — all claims he says Lopez ignored.
He added that she chose her fame over the relationship, implying that her version of the past omits key details.
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At the same time, Lopez used the interview to reflect on her journey toward self-love and healing.
She acknowledged that, for a long time, she didn’t love herself, which complicated her relationships.
Her most recent high-profile marriage, to Ben Affleck (2022–2024), she described as “the best thing that ever happened” because it kick-started deeper self-discovery.
As this drama unfolds publicly, Lopez appears focused on her next chapter — shifting her energy toward her children, her career and the next phase of her life.
Meanwhile, Noa’s rebuttal has reignited interest in what really happened behind the scenes of their early relationship.
Jennifer Lopez’s Relationship Timeline:
Ojani Noa (1997–1998): Her first marriage, which ended after just 11 months.
Cris Judd (2001–2003): The two tied the knot after meeting on a music video set, but divorced two years later.
Marc Anthony (2004–2014): Her longest marriage — together they share twins, Emme and Max.
Ben Affleck (2022–2025): Rekindled their early-2000s romance, but eventually separated, citing irreconcilable differences.
